Jesus teaches: do not take your seat at the place of honour. The Parable is about humility. Humility is about truth, about accepting our real position before the Lord. It means being open to God.
We have examples before us. When Mary was asked to be the mother of the Lord, her answer was : be it done to me according to your word. She said to God I want what you want. Jesus emptied himself and became a slave. Because of this God made him Lord. Humility is not a pretence or a stance. It is an action. It is doing what God wants.
Jesus says: Be like me. Give your life away to me and for others .And when the host comes, he will say: My Friend, go up higher.